Where Am I Now?

Where Am I Now?

Claude DaCorsi

Marylhurst University

Prepared for:

 Cora Lonning

Professor MB361 Summer 2014

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Where Am I Now?

At the beginning of this course I thought I would be somewhere different than I am currently.  I did not see myself as the tools and profiles have shown me to be.  Granted, some of the behaviors that I exhibited and realized I had were not a big shock.  Being an evaluative listener was something I was already aware of, but did not have an actual definition and meaning behind it.  That being said.  I did learn a lot about myself.  Not only from a personal standpoint, but from the points of view of others that I interact with on a daily business.  It was interesting to see the difference of opinion from very personal relationships like my wife, to causal and professional relationships with my friends and co-workers.  It was a very interesting 5 weeks, filled with a lot of ah hah moments and mind blowing experience.  I feel that I have grown as a man emotionally during this short period of time and I know that I will continue growing throughout my life as I move towards emotional literacy. I will describe my results from the three assessments, and offer up a plan of action to help improve myself on the weakness that this combined profile causes, and they build on the strengths that will help me succeed in the future.

Values

I thought I was pretty social when glancing over the values worksheet, however, after further reading, I found that that isn’t me at all.  “The social person regards helping others as the only suitable for human relationships”, I think that there can be many other ways to build human relationships, and honestly, there are many times where I do not want to help others out.  This is why I think that I placed the Utilitarian value as #1 on my worksheet.  I would not have thought that I would have placed this value so high, however, after looking at the sample profiles, the fourth sample is almost me to a “T”.  “You have a strong desire to lead, direct and control your own destiny and the destiny of others. You have a desire to lead and are striving for opportunities to advance your position and influence. Others may believe you are jockeying for position and continually stepping "over the line." They may believe that you form relationships only to "move ahead" and gain an advantage” (Behavioral-Values Research Associates, 1998).I want to be successful and have financial security for not only myself but my family as well.  I do not think this is a bad thing at all, and I am willing to work very hard to achieve this goal.

Listening

When I was conducting the interviews the biggest statement that stood out was, “I don't think you’re a bad listener. I just think that you are a highly intelligent man who wants to get his point across.”  This is from one of my employees named Elizabeth.  This surprised me because of my listening profile.  Here is an individual who made the point of my listening profile summary, and described my astute listening style very accurately.  I was almost shocked by this, it gave the listening profile substance.  Most of the others that were interviewed claimed that I was a very good listener, one stated that I need to “put your damn phone in your pocket when people talk to you.”  This is very true but it was eye opening about how many people agreed that I do this a lot.  I really need to stop that.  Another point was that my wife and ex-wife had the same answers to the questions.  They do not think I fully hear what they have to say.  They do not think they get my point of view, and that I do not respond well to them.  I always interrupt them and I need to stop trying to be right all the time.  Again the listening profile accurately describes me in their own words.