The Family of the Bully

The Family of the Bully

Bullying is occurring to everyone in life and sometimes without realizing it; you become a bystander who does nothing. There are always two sides to each story and parents will no doubt protect their children no matter what. Children have two side of their lives where they respectful and caring at home and egotistical in school. Parents have choice to show their child that they need to take responsibility and learn or make an excuse for the child. The decision lies with the parents since the children look up them for advice on how to act and answer. When your child is the bully, how do you defend him or her from the scrutiny? How do you defend a bully from other bullies? There are decisions that can change for the better or for the worse and it all ends up to what the parents do after finding out that their child is the bully.

In the Article “When Your Kid is The Bully,” there were two parents that were devastated to find out that their child was bullying a kid while that third parent made an excuse for his child. In this article Dr. Elizabeth Englader mentions that parents are biologically wire to assume that their children are behaving normally. I disagree with her statement seeing as parents are supposed to know their children when at home and outside the home. I believe that Dr. Elizabeth Englander is making an excuse for the parents of the bullies instead letting them know that they are at fault too. Parents should be able to notice the difference in their child’s behavior. Kids will be kids is not an excuse; it’s a way to say that parents don’t really bother to know what their child does on a daily basis. Parents need to be parents and show that they care to know what their children to during school and after school. There are many ways to find out when their behavior changes. For example, talking to the teacher privately, speaking to the child’s best friend, the parents of the other children and more.

Dr. Englander mentions,” In a bullying situation, the child who is on top is not very motivated, if at all, to change anything, because they’re on top.’’ That is not true since parents are the ones in charge of the child. There are many ways to change a child’s way of being. Parents need to find ways to communicate with their child and explain what looks right to them, looks horrible to others. Peggy Moss says, “It’s really important to acknowledge that your child may have been a target yesterday, will be a bystander another day, and is going to be a bully one day - and we have all played all of those roles.’’ I believe that this might be one way to cause the child to become a bully but it’s not the only reason. The point to this is that bullies as well as parent are a t fault. The changes come from home and parents need to accept the reality and help their child make changes. Parents are the answer to a better future for their children