Gender Communication - Lessons from Gender Communication

Gender Communications

Lessons from gender communication

        Men and women have different ways of communicating. Whereas women communicate using the relationship style more often, men frequently communicate using the information style. Women try to build rapport in order to negotiate relationships. Men talk to assert their individuality and to maintain their status, especially that of authority.

        Women, while making a decision, usually consult and discuss with the other team members in order to get their opinion. This is also because they prefer to provide an inclusive environment to the rest of the team and not make people feel left out. By doing so, they get different opinions and hence, make the most informed decision possible. On the other hand, men faced with a similar decision making situation, tend to take control and make their own decision without consulting anyone, thus establishing their authority.

        Men and women give out very different signals with the same body language. For example, women would nod during a meeting, usually in order to indicate that they understand the situation or what is being told. They try to relate to and form a connection with the speaker himself. However, men nodding during a meeting usually means they hold opinion with the speaker. Hence, in the same meeting, women may nod to indicate that they understand but not necessarily agree, however, men may nod to agree with the point being discussed.

 Therefore, it is essential to understand that men and women have different styles/ways of communicating. By understanding the differences in the style of communication and operation, workplace clashes can be avoided. This would lead to a harmonious and productive environment.

Impact of gender communication on business

        If communication is gender specific, for example in a male dominated environment, where there is a predisposition towards male dominance, any female specific communication can be misinterpreted by the male population and have a negative impact on their psyche and consequently their performance and productivity (Konishi, 1993). There are situations and work environments with specific needs for feminine traits where women prove to be better achievers due to their ability to connect and build relationships.

Communication by women is generally relational and hence, often seems to make them appear unsure or less confident (Schneider, 2004). For example, women tend to attach questions to statements or present statements as questions. This makes them appear not fully in control of their decision making capabilities and therefore weak. In a corporate world that was created by men, it is difficult for women’s natural behaviours, especially the need to relate and connect, to find acceptance. This cross gender communication issue often causes conflicts and tensions in the workplace which affect work negatively.