Ourselves in Our Families

The “nuclear” family A.K.A the traditional family consists of the father, mother and the 2.5 children is a good wholesome where the parents fall in love, marry, procreate and mother raises the children in a loving nature and teach them right from wrong while father goes out and works and provides for the family, the children grow up and meet spouses of their own and repeat and neither mother or father would ever dream of hurting the children or each other. I believe this “nuclear” family no longer exists in this traditional sense and if it does then maybe 1 out of 30 families are like this. Of course there are still happy loving families but rarely biological mother, father and children, these more modern times it’s more like single parent, uncle or aunt, grandparents, step families, adoptive parents or even older siblings or friends all in the one house.

The term “dysfunctional” families to some people means single parents, alcoholic parent/s, mentally ill parent/s and children and even homosexual parents. That’s a matter of opinion not always fact , for example I don’t believe that single and/or homosexual parents in a family means “dysfunctional” at all, in most instances they make a very happy “functional” family so to have a good understanding of this topic it’s probably best to have an open mind.

How times have changed, now there’s IVF, adoption, foster care and even step families and sometimes they are quite happy in these families and sometimes not as happy in the old fashioned “nuclear” family. I am from a so called “dysfunctional” family and by that I mean only my mother raised me then when she passed on my older brother raised me and I am a happy person that feels blessed to have a small but loving so called “dysfunctional” family. So people are just stuck in their ways sometimes and believe only the biological mother and father together should raise the child and are still against the idea of homosexual couples having children either by IVF or adoption, I don’t think they even know what the big problem with that it is. Each to their own.

Everybody needs a family and by family I mean people to love and be loved by, to trust and to feel safe. Nobody is an exception to this, EVERYBODY needs some kind of “safe environment”, most people spend a lot of time with their family like going out for dinner and family events such as Christmas, Easter and birthdays, even just sitting around all together chatting away or watching TV together and more often then not people come to their family first for advice or $20 till pay day. Sometimes family can make you feel jealous, annoyed and really angry but you overcome this because you love your family and they love you, love concurs all. Without some kind of family chances are low of maturing properly, learning the basics like right from wrong, compassion