Sexuality and Development

Karmen Childs

Sexuality and Development

BSHS/406

Professor Alleyne

5/18/2015

I will be doing an interview on a LGBT community member that I know of. While interviewing her, I will ask her three questions and one is to self-identify, second one is the societies view on the community and the last is the impact that the same sex marriage has on the community.

The woman that I am interviewing is someone whom I had grown up with and her name is Danielle and she is twenty four years old. Most of Danielle’s life she has dated boys but she would dress as a tomboy most of the times. I remember when we were in high school and after I had mentioned to her that her boyfriend that she was deeply in love with had cheated on her. She was heart-broken and at the same time mad at me because I told her. A little while later she started dating a girl that was in her grade. She told me that she was gay and that she really likes her. I have no problem with gay people because they are people and the only thing that makes us different is that they like the same sex. To this day she still dates women and I am fine with that. You choose who you want to be happy with

I am going to go in depth with this a little because I am totally confused by it and it is my point of view but also it is society’s views of what happens. Danielle and I had grown up in the same church which is Pentecostal. When it comes to Pentecostal churches you have to make sure you do things that are right such as wearing long skirts or dresses, not cutting your hair, no going to parties, no showing your feet and a variety of other things. I had gotten pregnant out of wedlock and my mother was furious to where she had told my pastor. I had to talk to my pastor and I also got banned from singing in the choir or for worship. Before I even got pregnant my pastor knew that my friend was gay and he let her continue doing things in the church such as singing and playing the drums. Now for me this was hypocritical and picking favorites but I thought that religions that are focused on God are against gay people. Regardless of her being gay I still love and accept her but I feel that me getting pregnant out of wedlock is less offensive than being gay but it’s all in the bible as being a sin.  Society says that being gay is a sin but so is using drugs, fornication, getting pregnant out of wedlock. What I’m getting to is that no matter what you do in life you shouldn’t be treated differently for your wrong doings no matter if you do something wrong for a minute or the rest of your life.

The LGBT deal with a lot from trying to get jobs, dealing with the society, getting beat up and talked about and just not being accepted.  Sometimes we don’t understand things because we aren’t dealing with them ourselves. You see people fighting cancer, addicted to drugs, killing their children or spouse, raping others but yet they want to judge people because they want to be with the same sex or they don’t believe that they are supposed to be a man or woman. Everyone has a reason for what they do but if you don’t listen or have lived their life how are you going to know. There is so much that the LGBT community goes through and nothing is being done about it. As the years go by people are accepting them more but still think they are wrong for their doings. You have a choice to be who you want to be and there is no one that can change that. There are LGBT people that tend to take their own lives because they were either bullied or just weren’t accepted from their family or friends. You love who you love and you live for you and not anyone else.