The Five Love Languages

The Five Love Languages

What makes people fall in love? Some say that the initial step to loving and caring for someone is the result of a chemical reaction. Psychologist Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen talked about why people fall in love. “Smell forms part of the framework that confirms cultural attractions…love pheromones are invisible signals…the brain, we fall partly in love because of hormones”(Kienlen 1). Smell, signals and hormones are w  the three reasons that this psychologist gave for the initial reasons for falling in love. These are all based on the appearance and the feelings you get from meeting someone only for the first few times before getting to know them further. Getting to know a person more requires time and effort to understand their wants and needs in a relationship. When it comes to love there seems to be five main feelings or approaches to show this compassion towards an individual for which they care deeply about. Being able to understand and apply these five love languages is key in a successful relationship.              The way in which love is shown between individuals can be influenced from a young age. In an article by Innah Alexis she explains how we show love for our children. “There are parents who are very vocal in expressing their love and affection. Some show it through gifts and other material things… some may not be as materialistic and vocally expressive, but in their own way can sincerely convey their love and care to their kids”(Alexis 5). The actions of parents, the love they show for one another and also the love in which they show their children can be key factors in the love that people show for their loved ones when they grow up. A problem that may occur when we meet our partners is the difference in upbringing; it can lead different people to show different ways of loving each other. An article on the LDS website explains the meaning of love is not all about romance. “True love is not so much the matter of romance as it is a matter of anxious concern for the well being of ones companion” (ldscompanion). You have to learn to adapt in order to make a true relationship work. If someone communicates love in a certain way, for example, physically and the other person by words of affirmation relationship, their love can be misunderstood and not even recognized as love. This is an ordinary problem that can break up relationships.                                                                                              Receiving gifts is one of the five love languages. This could be the one which you really do inherit from your parents and the way in which they spend money around their children. If you follow this form of love then you are appreciative and receive the gift that is given as an expression