When Love Is Gone

How does one say goodbye to someone he has begun to care about, without having to inflict pain? How do we show to a person that goodbye does not mean abandoning him/her, that it only means we have to let go of a relationship if things don't work out any better anymore. I guess, there's really no easy way.

Goodbye seems like a concluding remark we have to speak when we leave someone behind. It sounds so final, and yet it is a heartbreaking reality we have to face, somehow, someday no matter how dreadful it may be.

Letting go of those we deeply love and care about, for whatever reason, often leaves us helplessly shattered. But on the other hand, clinging pointlessly to what has been, memories or relationships usually isn't very good for us in the end. But learning to have the courage to let go is a sign of growth. It is an indication that we are matured enough to know what we can do without, and that we are ready to make room for what we really need in the next phase of our lives.

Goodbye is a sad thing but it's very real. We have to face the fact that we all have to say goodbye sometime in our lives and there's no easy way of saying it. That is why people often take off when we least expect it. They just walk away because they can't figure a way of saying goodbye.

Some people think it's holding on that makes us strong, sometimes it's letting go, yes, there's no doubt about it. Parting gives us a lot of sorrow specially if it's forever. But then goodbye is really just another way of saying hello. We move on, and one goodbye may have a lot of more hellos' so we must learn to let go, and we should know when to finally end up a chapter in our lives to be able to give way for a new one!

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights but still will not rain forever. One day the pouring will stop and there will be a plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It's never too late. Remember, you may find love and lose, but when love dies, you never have to die with it.

The success of a relationship lies only not in the beauty of its beginning but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that happiness is not a matter of destiny,