Love and Friendship

Personally, I think love is a prerequisite for a real friendship. But many time, you may not identify the connection as "love." When I meet someone and I find that I get along with them really, really well, and we become friends, what's actually happening is a type of trust and subliminal understanding between us that forms the bonds of real love, love that is unconditional, a love that doesn't have to be romance, but a love that is simply a genuine, real connection between two people. When that happens, a friendship starts. Sometimes friendships can form that don't have that foundational love, and it creates a sort of false trust between people. that can result in a number of awful things happening to the people involved, as false trust results in expectations, broken promises, basic things that divide people.

Love in the sense of a love that binds two people together as "lovers," if you will, is not that different. When two people are really, truly "in love," it results from that same sort of subconscious understanding and trust formed between them that results in an unbreakable bond. The result is a thing of beauty; a person can discover another soul that they relate to, they understand, they trust, and that they are attached to, in a way, which forms such a true bond, that there really is nothing to separate it.

superficiality, though, becomes an obstacle in any sort of friendship, and it can happen a number of different ways. Someone can appear to me to be a really amazing person, and I might automatically feel connected to them. It's easy, though, for me to subconsciously create expectations of that person that result from me paying too close attention to their superficial qualities, so much so that I become attached to the person that they appear to be, not the character in their hearts. When that happens, I could find myself in situations where my expectations are not being