Compromise During Divorce

Compromise during divorce

Ashly Fitzgerald

BSHS/406

November 21, 2016

Debby

Compromise during divorce

Divorce, although is a decision between parents, affects the whole family, and the day to day function of the family.  Sometimes families are lucky enough to go through a smooth divorce, and get all the things they ask for. More often than not, families experience an ugly divorce, and the divorce can actually be drawn out for months, even years before any compromise or decisions are made. It is important to be able to compromise, even when going through a divorce. It is in the best interest for everyone, and causes or creates less drama.

One great compromise to make during a divorce is with the kids, and their time. Everyone involved obviously wants custody of the children, and as much time as possible with them. It is important to ensure you let the children visit and stay involved with all family members and especially their other parent or siblings. Split up the time evenly, to ensure they have opportunities to be involved in both sides of the family. Try to promote communication between them, and encourage a relationship with their other parent. Children will sometimes try to take sides, and it is crucial that you make it known to them that they have no sides to take, because even though divorced, you both are still a team.

Another compromise I think is crucial during a divorce is co-parenting. Usually during a divorce, it is a stressful, hectic time. It is important to maintain that amicable relationship with your spouse, for the children. The kids need to see that their parents are still their parents, and that they still have that haven at home. When the child sees, their parents get along, it helps them become stronger and form and keep those relationships with their other parent, and grandparents.

They say divorce is like a funeral, because usually you lose friends, family, and things like possessions and even sometimes you kids. It is hard when you lose your friends, because in the end, most will take sides. Just make sure you are the bigger person, and allow your friends to be friends with both of you. Making them chose sides, is also hard.